This Strange Feeling

The past few days, I have been feeling so down. So dark. I couldn’t really understand. I was questioning why I was here. I had that strange feeling of being lost, of losing my purpose. Although my purpose for being here is crystal clear, I am here to work. It was confusing. All I know is I was so demotivated. Uninspired. It was taking me hours to complete one job. I’m like intentionally dragging it just because. I don’t feel like completing the tasks. I kept delaying things that actually I could finish in one sitting. And I hated myself for doing that because I hate people who do that. Who doesn’t complete their tasks and finds reasons to walk around and do nothing.

I was trying to figure out what was the reason for all these. Is it my job? The environment? The people around?

To be honest, I couldn’t be grateful enough to be here and work with people who are all respectful and pleasant (well, not all, but). So I don’t understand what’s going on with me.

And I’m sure it’s not about the routine. I am ok with repetitions and prefer planned actions to spontaneity. But for some reason, I couldn’t get myself to do the things I do. At one point, I was even so hesitant to swim – the activity I love doing the most. Instead, I am getting drawn more to my bed.  

I was also losing my appetite because I couldn’t get to eat the food, but I kept feeling hungry because I was never satisfied, and I kept eating junk food – chips and instant noodles that actually made me gain weight in a month.

I asked my sister what she thought about this. And I asked her if it was ok for me to go home and bum around for months until I figured out what I wanted to do next? And her answer was just the practical one. Hindi madaling kumita ng pera teh. Maayos naman sweldo mo dyan, dyan ka muna.

But to be honest, I came to the point that I have calculated already if I have enough money to cover my expenses and the bills I have to pay if I’m going to go home and do nothing for months. Because I wanted to escape. I wanted to just stop doing things, stop working. But then the thoughts of bills and adulting things come to mind to remind me that I can never stop working. But is this all there is to this life?

It’s funny that I was still on a high just last month because of being the temporary acoustic performer, and now, just after a few weeks, I am in a slump.

I just don’t get it. And I hate that I also don’t know the reason for all these dark feelings.

However, today I felt a bit lighter when I received this Monday Motivation newsletter (and I am grateful for receiving this) from Find Your Voice, and it said:

Hibernation is the natural order — you cannot be “on” all the time. You cannot always be writing, always be on Instagram, always be creating, always be metabolizing your life to share with others. There are times, in the natural cycle of creativity, where it is good to get secret, go dark, be private, and retreat into the darkness for a time. 

This was meant for writing, but I guess it applies to life too. So, for now, I will give myself some time and wait until this darkness fades away.

12 responses to “This Strange Feeling”

  1. Hashtag relate. 😀

    May kekwento ako. Haha. Sa team kasi namin, seems like people come and people go, usually mga “kabataan.” Tapos when we’re asking if they can refer someone to fill in the job, same same ang reasons nila. Either gusto nilang magproceed as CPA-lawyer or gusto nilang magpahinga. Extremes!

    Gets ko yung gusto ng bonggang career, pero magpahinga? San sila napagod? Haha.

    Pinag-uusapan nga namin ni Jeff last time, bakit sila may luxury na magpahinga? Bakit may choice? Bakit sa generation natin hindi pwedeng mapagod? Naiisip ko pa lang yung mga mina-mine ko, alam kong di ako pwedeng tumigil. Hahahahahahaha.

    Kelan kaya tayo magiging housewife na may mga kasambahay, Inang Bibe? Haha. Libre mangarap.


    1. Ayun na nga, bakit sila pwede magpahinga. Bakit tayo hindi?

      Wala naman akong masyadong nama-mine dito pero marami na rin akong na add sa cart hahaha. So same! Actually, for some reasons, bago ko isulat ito, kating kati akong ichat ka, idk why. Kaya lang sabi ko baka makaabala hahaha kaya nagsulat na lang me.

      Kaya nga ang goal ko na ngayon ay yumaman haha para makatambay na lang sa bahay.

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      1. HAHAHHAHAHA same feeeeelssss! May nabasa akong meme ni Tita Witty. Yung pag nawawalan daw tayo ng gana sa life, isipin natin matakaw tayo saka magastos tayo. LOL.

        Kidding aside, ang tingin ko namang source ng sakin eh pandemic fatigue. Yung nalilimitahan ako sa maraming bagay because, pandemic. Yung simple lang naman ang pangarap ko pero bakit cannot be? Mga ganon. Hamo, aayos din tayo. 😀

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        1. Yung matakaw at magastos haha


  2. I feel you. hahaha. Sometimes, nakakapagod na talaga but party hormonal change din ahaha. Laban lang tayo! 🙂

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    1. Iniisip ko nga hormones lang ahaha

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  3. Hey girl, that sucks, I’m sorry. I was feeling the exact same way too. In fact I still have some of those feelings lingering and I wonder if I am where I’m supposed to be in life.

    The answer is up to you… I had to leave home for a little to come back and appreciate it. I don’t know if that’s all that I needed but like I said, I’m still struggling with my motivation and I think it’s something you gotta search to uncover and reveal. Rest is good, and so is a change of pace.

    Sending lots of love your way!

    Xo, Nerelle


    1. Hello! Thanks for this.

      Maybe my motivation is hiding under my pillow haha.

      Take care, and looking forward to more of your upcoming posts.


  4. I think we all feel that way @ some point because it can be super exhausting… I mean, my job isn’t hard, it requires care and attention but it isn’t hard… what else do I ask for? For me. it is the feeling of paulit ulit, so minsan, I want to go home na rin, then I remembered, may asawa’t anak pala ako to consider.

    Like I am languishing — siguro that’s the very reason why I recently emailed an open university inquiring about their flexibility sa ating mga OFWs given the time difference and all that bs. I am waiting for their reply, it’s as if naglihi ako sa pag-aaral last week.

    Remember my bff na sinabi ko na ikaw na ikaw??? Alam mo, super hilig rin nyang mag hibernate — using the exact same words 😀 It’s curious how similar you guys are!

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    1. oh Good luck sa Open U

      Di kaya soulmates kami nyang BFF mo haha

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      1. hahaha. baka nga 😀 😀 😀 promise, she’d ghost all of us and pull a Dong Abay mode

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  5. Naka relate ako dito 😊

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