I Want to be a Housewife

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Today as I browse my facebook feed, I saw a post of a high school classmate about her lumpiang shanghai (spring rolls) with a status that goes along this line, it’s difficult to wrap a lumpia.

She used to be an Accountant in a big fast food chain till she got pregnant. From her pregnancy till date (her daughter must be 8 years old already), she is a stay at home mom / house wife.

Then I thought of my current dream. I want to be a housewife.

You may raise your left eyebrow and read what I have written once again but your eyes aren’t fooling you. You’ve read it right. My current dream is to be a housewife. You may ask, why?

For the longest time, women have been battling for their rights to work and to be leaders of companies, to be on top of the corporate ladder, etc., etc., and here I am,  wanting to leave my hard earned profession to become a housewife.

But my question to myself now is, am I ready to be a housewife? And will I be a good one?

I was raised by a working mom. She’s out the whole day and by the time she comes home she’s already tired. She will choose the easy-to-cook-dishes for dinner. I’ve never heard of dishes such as Morcon and Sisig till I reached college and I’ve never seen her preparing any dish with cooking time that exceeds 20mins. Don’t even ask about home baked cakes or cupcakes. We don’t have an oven but more than that, she never had time.

I always envied my classmates and neighbors who’d get home made delicacies for merienda. For us, if we want to eat something, we have to buy it.

Leaving the food issues aside, I don’t know how my mom managed to do the other chores after a long day. Well, I have a share of chores since I am the eldest. I wash the dishes after our dinner while I would see her ironing our uniforms. I do the laundry, she does the ironing (later on, I started doing the ironing too). She has 4 kids plus my father to take care of too. At that time, I never really thought about how she must feel. Her legs must be sore at night and she must be so sleepy all the time because of her late nights and early mornings. And more than her physical condition, how about the mental and emotional aspect? To work while doing the chores and raising 4 kids and a husband is tough.

I can’t imagine how my mom will be if she is a stay at home mom/wife. Whenever she’s at home, she can’t stop doing things and after a day at home, she’s bored and she would want to go back to work the next day. I’m not sure if I will be the same.

I think of how I will be should I become a housewife. Am I ready to do all the cooking and cleaning stuff instead of reading emails and getting high blood pressure from annoying colleagues? Am I ready to be just receiving money from my husband instead of earning them by myself?

About the cooking thing, see, I am not a good cook. But my husband never complained about my cooking anyway (so far) even though, when we were together in Dubai, I always cooked sauteed (insert item here, ie veggies, pork, etc) in oyster sauce. I think I can learn this once I have time. (LOL, I had 4 years to learn how to cook in college but nothing happened, but that’s why I married a chef. And sometimes I blame my mom and our lifestyle for my non-interest in cooking).

About the cleaning and other stuff, well, I love ironing clothes. I iron even pajamas and sleeping clothes while singing so there shouldn’t be any problem on this part.

And about the earning part, I am a low maintenance person so I think I would be happy with whatever I receive.

I don’t really know how ready I am but somehow I feel excited for that time to come when I can just be at home, trying to bake cakes (and failing and blogging about it), watering plants in a small garden, sewing curtains and skirts and all that homely stuff.

As of now, I can only dream and be excited about it. Till then, I will hang on to where I am now, reading my emails, screaming at annoying colleagues (though I try so hard not to), reading your blogs and writing about my thoughts.

image: maretraiteauxphilippines.blogspot.com

Published by aysabaw

Hi there! My name is Aysa! I am currently based in the Maldives, a free diver, a frustrated artist and writer and a lover of palm trees and ocean breeze.

48 Comments

  3. I’m a 24/7 housewife for 10 years and I’m loving it. I wouldn’t trade anything in the world, just to see my husband’s smile while enjoying his home cooked meals I prepared for him. Knowing that he’s proud to have a caring wife is the greatest reward for me. (Dapat lang naman, pinagpalit ko career ko para lang alagaan sya. Hahaha)

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  5. Kaysarap alagaan ang mga pangarap na nabuo sa mumunting kaisipan hano..

    Ako din nangarap (hindi na maging housewife haha) ng isang masayang pamilya..God-fearing, maayos ang buhay..kaysarap isipin na unti-unti ibinibigay ng Lord sa tamang panahon.

    Wait ko rin yung baking delights mo..kainaman sa cake pag nasira gawin mong puding o kaya cookie crumbles, hehe (peace).

    Basta gusto ko yang excitement na pakiramdam na yan. For sure madami ka maisusulat lalo, iba kc pag may bago sa setup masarap mag blog..

    Hihintayin ko yan 🙂

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  6. I dream to have a housewife – someone who makes our home and someone I’d offer a double portion of my love. 🙂 Napag-aaralan yan and I believe you’ll be a good housewife. It’s a grand dream!

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  10. Don’t jump unless you are 100% sure about it. I have seen female colleagues in my workplace who were good at their job but once they tied the knot, the got fully hooked up to the housewife part of life. Do what makes you happy but also make others happy by doing something for them 😊

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  11. Why don’t you try a home based business. I am a housewife, be it not the greatest. There are so many different things you can do where you can be home, yet still keep you identity! I have heard a lot of success stories in things like advocare, thrive, and my personal choice, inteletravel! You can also cut down to part time so you don’t lose your place in the company while you get your side business going.

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  13. A house wife is hard work. It’s not all dandy. Your up just as early as early as any other job. On your feet all day. Doing laundry and dishes? ha not if you have kids. You might get one of those chores done. The rest of the time your picking the same toy up 2836292 times, plugging your ears from your toddlers screaming and cleaning up poop from your baby who just wiped it all on the bathroom wall. Yep you heard me.
    Don’t get me wrong, I love my children. I love being home and not missing moments. I love seeing my husband walk in the door and cooking for him (occasionally) because he cooks too. He helps with chores.
    I also have side jobs. Photography and cleaning houses occasionally, if not, I would go crazy being stuck 24/7 home.
    Sometimes I’d rather have a full time job. Other times I couldn’t imagine having one and missing out on my children. I think being a sahm or having a job in the work place is completely equal. They are the hard and have pros and cons. Some suit others more than one. Regardless, I give props to anyone doing either or doing both!!! It’s hard work either way.

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    1. Hey thanks for dropping by and for giving me insights, appreciate it. Yeah I understand that being a housewife is not at all easy and I salute all housewives. However, whenever I get burned out at work, I just think about how nice could it be if I were just at home…..

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  14. Haha oh honey loved your blog…A housewife really has its challenges to… I, like you was working and now I am a house wife. It’s comes with its fair share of challenges! But has it perks…believe you me my days are never boring .infact I wish there was more hours in a day… but although I am financially comfortable i do miss earning my own!! So good on you for your hard work in your professional career. The grass always looks greener!

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    1. ha ha ha ha thanks a lot and yes, shifting from a career woman will be difficult at first and of course there will be pros and cons (eg not earning for myself anymore) but hey, that’s life! I checked your blog and you seem to be a funny person he he he

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        1. ha ha ha thanks a lot and I followed you, I’m sure I’ll find hilarious blog posts in the future 🙂

          BTW, I would like to nominate you to the Awesome Blogger Award on my upcoming post and hope you can join 🙂

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  15. Thank you for your post. My mom had 4 kids and worked 2 part time jobs, and cleaned peoples houses on the weekends and sell Avon on the side. I was the one who started dinner every night for our family, I was 10-12 years old and she would finish when she got home at night. She did everything. I didn’t want to struggle like that in life, but after I divorced I was a single parent for 10 years raising my 3 kids alone. Actually I raised them alone even when I was married. Now they are grown and on their own, and I am a housewife. My new husband has always wanted a housewife. I just started my website, and I am writing my first book. I am starting my housewife life. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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  16. it’s my first step on your site and got a little lump on my throat when I started reading your post. I am an accountant by profession and wrote about how a rookie housewife like me cooks Lumpia Shanghai last month. Haha! I really thought you were referring to me, but it seems not. Anyway.. I used to be a workaholic corporate career woman who doesn’t love house chores – but still decided to be a stay-at-home wife. The decision is worth it, especially now that I am expecting a baby end of this year. I pray you’ll make the choice which makes you sleep peacefully at night. I’m happy to know you somehow!

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    1. Ha ha ha Hi Sandy! The Lumpia is just a coincidence haha. Wow! Great step and congrats to you on becoming a mom soon! I just subscribed on your blog and great to know you 🙂

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